Why do some people seemingly “sail” through life while others seemingly “flail” through life? Two words immediately come to mind…PERMISSION and CHOICES. Those who have CHOSEN to give themselves PERMISSION to “go after” all that life has to offer tend to make the game of life look so much easier than those who have CHOSEN to get bogged down in life’s minutia and “flail” their way through. As a peak performance strategist, I coach both “sailers” and “flailers”. I recently compiled a list of 8 common reasons why many people remain stuck in life and business. ***For the purpose of this article I am defining “success” as the attainment of anything worthwhile and rewarding.
1. LACK A TRUE VISION. Our journey to success will start with a compelling vision but must be followed by hard work and dedication. There are NO shortcuts! Our vision must be big enough and exciting enough to ensure that nothing can derail us from our dream. Frustration is usually birthed from a lack of focus. When our vision is small we tend to allow excuses and justifications to become our focal point. This is death to a dream.
2. MAJOR IN MINOR THINGS. Drama is another killer of dreams! I have seen countless people put their dreams on hold or lose momentum in their business because they seem to constantly be “coming to the rescue” of a “wayward” friend or family member. Helping people in need is a compassionate way to live life but far too many of us are using it as an avoidance strategy. Getting “sucked” into other peoples drama is an unconscious way to live and will keep us from “sailing”.
3. COMPARING OURSELVES TO OTHERS. When I spend time comparing myself to someone else I am wasting my most precious resource…TIME! I am also sending a very loud message to the universe that I don’t appreciate my life and opportunities. This is NOT the message we want to send! My job is to run my race, not yours.
4. SEEKING ADVICE FROM THE WRONG PEOPLE. Once we create our vision and begin establishing our goals, it’s now time to seek counsel from people who are capable of helping us design a success strategy. It’s always wise to seek advice from people who have achieved the results we are striving to achieve. Their guidance can save us valuable time, resources and energy. It never ceases to amaze me how many people accept guidance from people who are no further along than they are? If you find that you are the smartest person in the room…FIND A NEW ROOM!
5. MOVING FROM “GURU TO GURU”. There is no such thing as a magic bullet! Knowledge is a good thing. APPLIED KNOWLEDGE PRODUCES RESULTS! A person can only take so many courses, gain so many certifications or earn so many degrees before it is time to APPLY what we know. Ask yourself…are you chasing your dream or are you chasing your “guru”?
6. LACKING A PROGRESSIVE CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE. The 5 people we spend the most time with have the greatest influence in our lives. It is imperative that we choose wisely. As we begin changing and growing so will our circle of influence. Many of us are surprised when friends and family members begin mocking our personal growth or even attempt to sabotage it. The reason for their behavior is simple, they want us to remain WHERE IT IS COMFORTABLE FOR THEM and they feel threatened by our ambition.
7. LOOKING AT THE “COST” RATHER THAN THE “INVESTMENT”. Successful people view personal growth and professional development as an investment rather than a cost. They invest in seminars, programs, workshops and they hire coaches while knowing full well that the true return on their investment will occur in the future. Cost minded people are focused on immediate return, have a difficult time delaying gratification and play a heavy game of “either-or”.
8. QUIT EASILY & QUIT OFTEN. Success is not for the faint of heart. I recently observed a person on my social media stream lamenting their challenge of getting their business off the ground. Which business I wondered? It seems like every month they are promoting a new business venture. The previous one “just didn’t work out”. My guess is at the first sign of resistance they quit and move on to the “next great thing”. What they fail to realize is that nobody wants to follow someone who quits easily and often. Anything worthwhile takes time, patience and a great deal of sweat equity before we can realize the joy of achievement.
STUCK is a CHOICE!
As always, I look forward to your thoughts and feedback.