The Worst Feeling In The World & 5 Strategies To Overcome It…John Page Burton

Recently, a client asked me a very thought provoking question. “What do you consider to be the worst feeling in the world”? I pondered this question for a moment and answered…”not living up to my God given potential”. During my lifetime I have experienced the death of loved ones, illness, divorce, business failure and a myriad of other life challenges. Although difficult at the time, these emotional storms eventually passed, making me a stronger person for having weathered the experience. The same can’t be said for the times in my life when I have been haunted by feelings of underachievement. All of us know whether or not we are putting forth our best effort in our relationship, career, spiritual life and health. We can lie to everyone around us but we can’t lie to ourselves. This is the unique “check and balance” system that God included with every soul. Whenever I have taken shortcuts, cheated, sabotaged my success or quit when the journey became difficult, I have been left with a profound sense of disappointment. I know that I have control over my choices and in that moment I sold out on myself. Any excuse, attempt at blame or justification for my lack of effort will not change the fact that I have not lived up to my “God given potential”.

Below are 5 strategies that help me stay on track in my continuing efforts to realize my “God given potential”.

LIVING WITH PURPOSE & PASSION. In today’s world “goal setting” has become quite cliche. We are encouraged to set goals and go after our dreams and yet many of us have no idea what we really desire? A person who lives with purpose also lives with passion. Passion fuels imagination and imagination is the mother of invention. What are you passionate about? What will your legacy be? What are your God given talents? What inspires you? I have always enjoyed writing and yet was told by several “well meaning” people that it was impractical and that I should focus on getting a “real job”. Today, I earn my living as a writer, speaker and educator. All of this became possible when I made the decision to FOLLOW MY PASSION! My driving purpose is to help heal the world by sharing my life experiences and wisdom with others.

HIRE A COACH. Hiring a coach is an investment in yourself. A coach offers an objective set of eyes. Good coaches are trained to get to the core of an issue and then design and hold you accountable to a strategy that will help you BREAKTHROUGH your self imposed barriers and realize your “God given potential”. Most coaches offer an initial consultation which provides you with an opportunity to see if the relationship will be a good fit. To learn about coaching feel free to visit my website. I certainly continue to benefit from the wisdom and guidance of my coaches and mentors.

TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE. “The world owes us nothing, it was here first” is one of my favorite quotes. It means that WE are solely responsible for the quality of our lives. When we take full responsibility for our ALL of our outcomes we are more likely to maximize our “God given potential”. Playing the “victim” role never serves us. Life is not about what happens to us but rather who we become from the experience.

ASK GOD, HE GIFTED YOU THE POTENTIAL TO BEGIN WITH. Stated another way…go to prayer. We all face challenges in our lives and it is human nature to exhibit fear and doubt. When we find ourselves questioning our potential we can take comfort in knowing that we can go straight to the source and ask for some clarity. Prayer and meditation allow us to clear the clutter and reconnect with our “God given potential”.

EVALUATE YOUR CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE. Surround yourself with people who challenge you to become a better person rather than people who support underachievement. The fastest way to change the quality of our lives is to change our associations. Clients routinely ask me, “does this include family”? I encourage my clients to ask themselves this question…If you were not related to this person how much time would you spend with them? One of the surest ways to remain a “chronic underachiever” is to hang out with them! Here’s the million dollar question…Does your current circle of influence spend most of their time talking about other people or talking about IDEAS? HINT…If you are the smartest person in the room it is time to find another room! Change your association, change your life!

Thanks for allowing me to share my “God given potential” with you. As always, I look forward to your thoughts and feedback.

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