As a writer I’m always looking for new ideas and material. This week one of my clients stated “all I do is give, give, give” which prompted me to ask them the question…do you consider yourself to be a “giver” or a “taker”? My subsequent conversation with this client prompted today’s message. ***At the conclusion of this particular coaching session my client came to the realization that they were actually “taking” far more than they were “giving” which was the real cause of their frustration.
The million dollar question…
Would the people you interact with on a regular basis describe you as a “giver” or a “taker? It is a safe bet that most of us view ourselves as “givers” but are we really giving as much as we think we are? I encourage you to answer the following questions honestly and objectively.
Be honest with YOURSELF…
*Do you readily give credit to others or do YOU take most of the credit for a group or team success?
*Do you routinely hand out sincere compliments and praise or do you hold back?
*Do you practice your manners? Please, thank you, I appreciate you, etc.
*Do you take people for granted? I.E. “It’s their job, they’re supposed to do it” or “they’re just volunteers”?
*Do you genuinely support the accomplishments and success of your friends, co-workers and peers?
*Are you jealous or envious of someones success, relationship or health?
*Do you give freely or do you keep score? I.E. “I did this for you, so you need to do this for me”?
*Do you volunteer your time and tithe on a regular basis?
*Do you crave recognition and feel unappreciated when you are not “celebrated” for everything you do?
*When was the last time you were in a restaurant and picked up the check for an elderly couples dinner? Paid for a soldiers lunch?
The results are in…
How did you do? If you scored an 8 or higher you are living the conscious life of a true giver. If you are in the 6-7 range I encourage you to take a look at areas where you hold back from unconditional giving. Make the decision to become more aware of this habit. It may be uncomfortable at first because of our human nature to make everything about us. If you scored a 5 or less you are extremely self absorbed and possess a scarcity mindset. It is important that you come to realize that there is more than enough of EVERYTHING for EVERYONE! Release your death grip on “getting what’s yours” and start giving!
The secret to living is giving!
As always, I look forward to your thoughts and feedback.