Webster’s dictionary defines the word clutter as (noun) a confused or disordered state of collection or (verb) to run or move with bustle and confusion. Most of us don’t realize just how much clutter we carry around with us. Living in clutter is very dis-empowering and blocks our receptive energy as well as our ability to truly focus on what matters the most. The majority of us experience three primary types of clutter, material, relationship and mental.
MATERIAL CLUTTER. Recently, Diana and I held a garage sale. In preparation, we worked our way through our house in an effort to identify specific items we had not used or worn in at least 6 months. Our feeling was that if we were not using these items then it was time to re-distribute them back into the community, thus contributing to the greater good. Initially, we were amazed by how much “stuff” we had collected in a few short years and then by how good it felt to clear this clutter. YOUR ASSIGNMENT…Take inventory of your excess “stuff” and organize a garage sale. You will be amazed at how much “stuff” you hang onto that is rarely if ever used. If you find yourself struggling to let go of things, you may want to take a deeper look at this obsession.
RELATIONSHIP CLUTTER. All of us engage in unhealthy personal relationships (including with our family of origin). Many of us often spend countless hours listening to and analyzing family, friendship and co-worker dramas. Some of us form co-dependent relationships with our children and then become disappointed when they can’t seem to think for themselves or find their own path. Others stop everything they are doing to once again come to the “rescue” of a “needy friend” only to miss out on spending quality time with their own family. YOUR ASSIGNMENT…Take inventory of your personal relationships. Which ones cause you frustration or angst? What are your true priorities? What needs are you meeting when you routinely engage in unhealthy personal relationships? Who are the 5 most influential people in your life? Do these 5 people empower or dis-empower you? Remember, the 5 people you spend the most time with also have the biggest influence on how you believe, think and act. Choose wisely!
MENTAL CLUTTER. This is often the worst clutter of all. We all experience setbacks and failures and hear those nasty little voices that constantly remind us of our shortcomings. It is the Ego’s primary function to hold us hostage in a place where we routinely experience jealousy, envy, anger, guilt and shame. All of us will harbor fear and self doubt in certain areas of our lives, this is what it means to be human. Clearing our mental clutter must be one of our top priorities. YOUR ASSIGNMENT…What untruths are you re-playing in your mind time and again? Are your feelings of anger, envy or jealousy justified or are they being triggered by the mental clutter from a past hurt? The minute we find our mind starting to spin a negative tale, we must stop, SNAP OUR FINGERS and ask ourselves if what we are feeling is based in truth? More often than not the answer is a resounding NO. This conscious awareness will help us cleanse our minds of dis-empowering clutter.
If you are like most of us, it may be the perfect time for some serious house cleaning!!! I look forward to your feedback.