Proactive people create opportunities and make things happen. Reactive people wait for things to happen and then usually complain about how unfair things are. We all get to choose how big or how small we are willing to play the game of life. This puts the ball directly in our court!
Here are 5 tips that will help you play a much BIGGER game.
1.Quit listening to the voices from your past. You are not your setbacks or failures. Setbacks and failures are necessary for our personal growth and maturity. Don’t personalize them!!! Learn from your setbacks and use them to your advantage. Throughout our lives, a lot of “well meaning” people gave us a great deal of bad advice. Many of us still carry around the voices in our heads that tell us to always play it safe and to never do anything that can be viewed by society as impractical. THE EXERCISE…Every time you find yourself listening to a negative voice from the past SNAP YOUR FINGERS and speak a positive message.
2. Surround yourself with winners not whiners. Beware of energy vampires, whose underlying mission is to suck you into their never ending drama. If the conversation doesn’t involve talking negatively about their shortcomings or problems, energy vampires will struggle to follow the conversation. RUN!!!!! Who are the 5 people you spend the most time with? Those 5 people will have the biggest influence on your life. If you become the smartest person in your group, find a more challenging group. This is growth! THE EXERCISE…Identify the five people who have made the most positive impact on your life. Call them and thank them for making a profound difference in your life.
3.Identify and work with your strengths. It is a waste of time and energy to work on our weakness’s. Focus on what you do best and continue to get better in those areas. Your areas of weakness will be another person’s area of strength. By doing this you will find that your energy and your overall productivity will increase. THE EXERCISE…Identify your 5 greatest strengths and make the decision to become even stronger in those areas.
4.Take 100% responsibility for your life. RUN YOUR RACE!!! Don’t let other people determine your destiny. Quit making excuses. Eliminate any need you may have to find blame in others. Playing the victim role will never empower you! You are the CEO of your life, make your own decisions and stick with them. Seek solutions for the challenges you face. THE EXERCISE…Make a poster board and write these words on it..IF IT IS GOING TO BE IT IS UP TO ME!!! Place it where you can see it at all times. Hold yourself 100% responsible for your results.
5.Watch your language. Our words become our thoughts, our thoughts become our actions, our actions become our habits. We must choose our words wisely. Eliminate the words BUT, TRY and CAN’T from your vocabulary. The words but and try always preclude an excuse. The word can’t means that you have accepted defeat in advance. Speak uplifting words to those around you. Go out of your way to offer people compliments. THE EXERCISE..For the next 30 days ask your friends, family and co-workers to hold you accountable each time they hear you say the words but, try or can’t. They can impose a fine each time they hear you use but, try or can’t. BUT=$2 TRY=$3 CAN’T= $5. Collect the money in a jar and then donate it to your favorite charity. *The charity will be very grateful for your generous donation.
True change takes awareness and practice. I hope that you find this information helpful! Your feedback is appreciated.