How Do You Treat The Help?…John Page Burton

Abraham Lincoln was a man who seemed to be very concerned with character and he was certainly a person who understood the importance of having a solid reputation. He once explained the difference between being of good character and having a good reputation. “Character is like a tree and reputation is like its shadow. The shadow is what we think of it, the tree is the real thing.” Stated another way, your reputation is what people think of you and your character is who you really are.

We live in a very image driven world. It is easy to get caught up in maintaining the “right” image and subsequently losing sight of our character. Our reputation is a public relations function while our character is based on our morals and values. As leaders we must exhibit a strong persona but this persona must be grounded in integrity and action. Far to many people in leadership positions focus on wearing the right clothes and saying the right things but fall short when it comes to ethics. True character is revealed by actions, not words. How does the person in a leadership role react when “doing the right thing” may  cost them more than they are willing to pay?

Our character is greatly revealed by how we treat the people that we believe can neither help us or hurt us. How a person treats the help (people like waiters, drivers, housekeepers and other staff) will go much farther in displaying their true character than how they treat people in power such as their boss or others whom they are dependent on.

Character is not a brand new suit or an evening gown that we put on to make a good impression.  Our character is who we really are.

Looking forward to your thoughts and feedback.

Don’t Let Self Sabotage Become A Habit…John Page Burton

At one time or another, all of us have “self sabotaged”. My area of specialization was “self sabotaging” relationships. The moment that I sensed my relationship was going well and that it might potentially “go the distance”, I would begin the slow, agonizing process of “blowing it up.” I have other friends who were specialists in “career sabotage” and others who were quite adept at “health sabotage.” Different areas,same results. The craziest part of all, is that if left unchecked, our self sabotaging behaviors become HABITS. In my case I made the decision to quit playing the “victim” card and begin taking personal responsibility for my role in the relationship. I also had to stop blaming my family of origin for everything that I felt was wrong with my life. I learned firsthand that once we stop playing the victim role and we begin taking responsibility for ALL of our actions we will begin to sabotage our success less and less. NEWSFLASH…Everyone has areas in their lives in which they self sabotage.

The first step in creating unstoppable results in our lives is to realize that we are solely responsible for the quality of our own life. Life deals each of us different cards and how we play our hand makes all the difference. Taking personal responsibility is the key to change, growth and freedom. Have you ever felt that if the circumstances in your life were different or that if the people around you would only change, then you would be able to enjoy more happiness and success? We ALL have had these thoughts! The moment that you and I realize that WE hold the key to our own happiness is the moment that our transformation can begin. This single realization can shift us out of VICTIM mode and propel us forward. We can no longer hold our families of origin or anyone else accountable for our lack of results. We are now the CEO of our life!!!

It takes approximately 30 days to make or break a habit. If you find yourself in self sabotage mode now is the time to address it and create a new habit. There are a lot of good life coaches out there that can help you through this process. You are worth the investment.

As always I welcome your feedback and any personal success stories you would like to share.

TRASH TALK…John Page Burton

For many of us when we hear the words “trash talk” we associate it with sports. For example, a football game between the Bears and the Packers has the potential for a tremendous amount of “trash talk.” Many of us talk (non sports related) trash on a daily basis and we seldom realize what a negative impact “trash talk” can have on the overall quality of our lives. REMEMBER that what we speak about we may bring about!

The Potential Consequences Of Trash Talk….

If you talk about how much you “hate” your job, you may lose it.

If you talk about how much you dislike your body, you may become sick.

If you talk about how “poor” you are, you may never have enough money.

If you keep saying that you don’t trust people, you may attract people who will betray you.

If you say that you will never find a good job, you probably won’t.

If you keep talking about how bad your marriage is, it just may end.

If you talk about how difficult your children have become, they will more than likely live up to your expectations.

Our goal should be to watch our words very carefully as they send the universe a very powerful message. We must strive to speak words that reflect love, abundance, faith and hope. When you are willing to settle for less than God’s BEST, you are bound to get even less than you settled for.

Some Things To Consider…

Watch your THOUGHTS as they will become your WORDS.

Watch your WORDS as they will become your ACTIONS.

Watch your ACTIONS as they will become your HABITS.

Watch your HABITS as they will become your CHARACTER.

Watch your CHARACTER as it will become your DESTINY.

As with everything in life, the CHOICE is ours.

Good Character Is An Attitude…John Page Burton

We often hear people say that someone has “good character.” We have also heard it said that someone exhibits a “good attitude.”  What determines good character? Why do some people achieve massive personal success while others struggle with mediocrity? My studies on leadership and my work in the personal development arena have lead me to believe that having good character and having a positive attitude go hand in hand.

Here’s Why….

People with good character usually have an upbeat outlook on life. They are positive, approachable, cooperative and they view their challenges with a “glass half full” mentality. When they have bad days ( as we all do) they recover quickly and look for solutions. They seldom if ever go victim to events or situations. They possess a “whatever it takes” mindset and tend to focus on what will work rather than what went wrong.  People with good character  display an attitude of gratitude. They are appreciative of the opportunities they have, the friends they know, the luxuries they can afford and they are quick to give praise to those who have helped them along the way.

Think about the people in your life that you consider to be people of sound character. What is their attitude? Do they exhibit the traits I mentioned? I believe that if you look closely you will find that they do.

Character is an attitude.

Free Of Limitations…John Page Burton

Any time we encounter a ” limitation” in our lives, we are well served to remember that it is never about the situation itself. The “limitation” is based solely on the way we CHOOSE to interpret it and respond to it. All of us have the ability to exercise supreme power over each and every situation that we perceive to be “limiting” us from moving forward. In other words, once we change our perception the “limitation” is gone! This is a very powerful awareness.

I am not diminishing the fact that ALL of us face challenges in our lives and that some of these challenges appear quite daunting. Our empowerment comes when we CHOOSE to assign a new meaning to any perceived “limitation” that may arise. Remember that there is a solution to every problem.

If we are not growing we are dying! We must always strive to become more. All of us are capable of setting bigger goals and we can CHOOSE to move towards them with higher levels of enthusiasm and focus. It is convenient to use our “limitations” as an excuse to play a smaller game of life. By seeking creative ways to move through our challenges we are building muscles that will assist us in reaching new heights. It is up to each of us to make the DECISION that we are no longer being held captive by our perceived “limitations”.

As always I enjoy your comments and feedback.

Is It Better To Be Broke Or Poor?…John Page Burton

During the course of my lifetime, I have enjoyed times of great abundance and I am also familiar with what it feels like to be broke. I have lived in beautiful homes and I also know what it feels like to sleep in the backseat of my car. Looking back, I can honestly say that there has never been a time in my life that I ever saw myself as being poor. Let me explain…

BROKE is a temporary condition, POOR is a state of mind. If we accept “poor” as our position in life, the odds are stacked against our success. However, if we just happen to be broke or as I like to say…”a little light on cash” we are simply encountering a bump in the road. In order to change our economic future we must first form a clear vision of where we desire to end up and then we must develop a strategic plan for getting there. Success is available to anyone who is willing to pay the price and take massive action.

We must NEVER allow thoughts of being “poor” to enter our mind. There can be no room for “poor” thoughts when we are chasing success! Remember… our past does not dictate our future. We have absolutely NO control over yesterday but we do have complete control of our thoughts in the present moment. How big are your dreams? No magic can ever come from tiny dreams! Dream BIG!

In my humble opinion it is much better to be broke than to be poor.

I welcome your thoughts and insight.

Get Over Yourself Already!!!…John Page Burton

One of the most common mistakes we make in life is that we tend to make everything about us. We invest a considerable amount of time and energy worrying about what other people think of us. We worry about saying the “wrong thing” or “looking foolish”. Rather than taking a stand or sharing our opinions, we stifle our voices because we don’t want to “rock the boat” or be “wrong”. This obsession with “looking good” is keeping many of us from reaching our true potential. Here is a clue…ITS NOT ABOUT YOU! Get over yourself already!

Are we letting our “looking good” programs keep us from enjoying personal and professional success? It may be time to get out of our own way and realize that living a quality life is about helping others!  We must quit making it about our feelings and our concerns and start making it about reaching out and helping others. I have a poster on my office wall that says…WHO CARES! Who cares if someone doesn’t buy from me. Who cares if someone doesn’t align with my point of view. Who cares if someone doesn’t agree with my religious or political affiliations. When we live our lives to please others we sell ourselves extremely short.

For the next 7 days, I challenge you to pay closer attention to your thoughts and your language. When do you hold back from speaking your mind? When do you hold back from offering your opinion? When do you stay quiet when you know that something is wrong? I encourage you to speak up, share your thoughts and opinions, take some risks and GET COMFORTABLE BEING UNCOMFORTABLE! Your voice matters, use it!

As Always I welcome your thoughts and if you don’t have an opinion about this message…Who Cares!

L.E.A.D.E.R.S.H.I.P…..John Page Burton

“Leadership” is a word that most of us hear on a regular basis. Beginning in early childhood, we were told that it was far more noble to be a leader than to be a follower. I once asked my father what would happen if everyone became a leader and their was nobody left to follow? I vaguely remember being swatted with a newspaper! Over the last 15 years I have had the honor of spending time with leaders in the world of business, sports, entertainment and in the personal development arena. I want to break down the word “leadership” and share what I consider to be the most consistent qualities found in people who I consider to be authentic leaders.

L=Loyalty. Effective leaders are loyal. Their word is their bond and they don’t engage in gossip or spread untruths. They are trustworthy.

E=Energy!!! Leaders are energetic and their energy is contagious. Leaders are mindful of their health and understand the role that vitality plays in top performance.

A=Action. Leaders take action. They are pacesetters.

D=DONE IT! True leaders have been in the trenches. They know and understand every aspect of their business. They will not ask you to do something that they have not done themselves.

E=Emotions. True leaders have an excellent command of their emotions. They have a very high emotional IQ. They shy away from making emotional decisions. They are very adept at shifting the emotional level in others in a positive way.

R=Risk. Leaders are willing to take risks. They recognize that with every risk  there is the potential for a significant reward.

S=Sacrifice. Effective leaders are willing to do what others won’t. They are willing to sacrifice in the short term to reap rewards in the long term.

H=Human. True leaders recognize that they are going to make mistakes and that they will fail. Humility is an essential attribute for effective leadership.

I=Intelligence. Leaders are always learning. They recognize the importance of continuing education. What sets an effective leader apart is their ability to apply their knowledge and achieve results.

P=Patience. Leaders understand that things take time. They take a very realistic approach to planning and problem solving. They understand the importance of embracing the “process” of success.

Becoming an effective leader is a life long journey. I know that I am always looking for ways to stretch and grow and I hope that you enjoy this process as much as I do! I look forward to hearing your thoughts on becoming a more effective leader.

Learning To Embrace Abundance…John Page Burton

Lets face it, with very few exceptions most of us came from families that either overtly or subconsciously promoted scarcity and lack. Many of us were even taught that money was an “evil thing”. Numerous “well intentioned” people used biblical scripture as justification for proclaiming that  “money was the root of ALL evil”. (I encourage you to consciously read the book of Timothy and see for yourself what was actually conveyed with regards to money) Many of us were also told by our parents that it was better for us to “be seen and not heard” and so we relinquished our voice at an early age. As part of our “domestication process” some of us were encouraged to fear God and to never question authority. Others were given clear instructions on the type of people that it was safe to “associate” with and we were chastised or punished every time we became curious and chose to leave our little box. If this was NOT your childhood good for you, your parents had a high level of awareness.

Studies have shown that well over 60% of our belief system is formed by the time we are 8 years old. By the age of 18 over 90% of our belief system has been established. (Some kids don’t leave home until they are in their early 20′s) Is it really any surprise that so many of us have “learned” to resist the flow of abundance, love, peace and joy? Most of us have been conditioned since childhood to “reject these desires as impractical or wrong!  All of us have set goals at one time or another and we have managed to get quite excited about what we  “could conceivably achieve”. Shortly after we began moving toward our dream the voices from our past started swirling around in our head and before we knew what had happened we found ourselves sitting on the sidelines. This was my reality for many years. I bought into the “what does society expect of me” story which allowed me to experience a tremendous amount of inner turmoil. Luckily, I found a mentor who began sharing some concepts and strategies that I could incorporate into my daily life. Over time, these concepts and strategies took root and I was able to re-design my belief system in a manner that dramatically changed my life. By applying these specific strategies I learned to “embrace the flow” and became very open to receiving economic abundance, love, peace and joy. Here are the specific things that I have learned to focus on. My hope is that it will help you as well.

*You must have faith. You must believe that what you desire is not only possible but highly attainable.

*You must learn to get uncomfortable. The more uncomfortable you learn to become, the more you will grow as a person.

*You are absolutely going to FAIL. At first this is a very tough concept to embrace because it attacks our ego which will call up every negative voice from our past. “I told you so”,”That’s for other people, we have always been” (fill in your blank) etc, etc.

*Surrender. You must let go! Those of us with control issues really struggle with this one. I struggle with it every day! Surrender allows all of the necessary pieces to fall into place.

*You must believe that you DESERVE it. Most people who quit, simply don’t believe that they deserve to be successful, happy or loved. They believe that this is reserved for other people.

Most of us will never be able to completely quiet the voices from our past but we can change our RELATIONSHIP to them. I highly recommend investing in a life coach or mentor to help you design a strategy that will help you to “let go and embrace your flow of abundance.”

I always enjoy hearing your feedback.